Why Seeking Support is Your Greatest Strength
Challenges show we need to allow others to support us, personally and professionally, yet it isn’t easy or natural for many. Sharing vulnerability with the right people, in the right way, allows us to enhance not just our sense of wellbeing but also our creativity, productivity, mental resilience and the likelihood of achieving our goals.
- 304 Pages
- 7 December 2020
- ISBN: 9781784529239
Award-Winning Finalist in the Self-Help: General category of the 2021 International Book Award. SHORTLISTED FOR THE BUSINESS BOOK AWARDS 2021. The challenges of recent years have brought to the forefront the need to allow others to support us, both personally and professionally. But it still isn’t easy or natural for many. Being transparent and comfortable sharing vulnerability with the right people, in the right way, allows us to enhance not just our sense of wellbeing but also our creativity, productivity, mental resilience and the likelihood of achieving our goals. In Just Ask, Andy Lopata explores the change in mindset needed to embrace the support of our networks and the power of doing so. He discusses the impact that transparency can have on individual and collective achievement and illustrates with case studies based on exclusive interviews how it has already affected people from all walks of life.
A specialist in professional relationships and networking for over 20 years, Andy Lopata was called ‘one of Europe’s leading business networking strategists’ by the Financial Times and ‘a true master of networking’ by The Independent and Forbes.com.
A very experienced international speaker, Andy is the author of five books, has been quoted in a number of other business books and regularly quoted in the international press.
Andy is a Fellow and a board member of the Professional Speaking Association UK & Ireland (PSA) and a Fellow of the Learning and Performance Institute as well as a Master of the Institute for Sales Management. He is also one of just 26 recipients of the PSA’s top honour, the Award of Excellence.
I have spent my life developing incredible teams which go on to build exceptional companies. The invisible ingredient of the most successful companies is an extraordinary culture. But culture is not an abstract happening, it is the combined effort and shared spirit of people. Such alliance can only come about through communication and must be underwritten by trust.
In this book, Andy Lopata explains how authentic leaders understand that asking for help and revealing their true self establishes trust. Further, he explains how leaders can be strong and purposeful whilst still encouraging open dialogue.
Asking for support helps individuals and teams to overcome adversity. Teams where members are willing to ask for help achieve higher goals. Individuals achieve higher levels. Collaboration becomes the basis of growth and development.
I thoroughly recommend this book to anyone who wishes to lead, or to be part of, an extraordinary team and create a winning culture.
Too often, when we have an idea or a challenge, we are blinded by the accompanying emotions. We have our blinders on and aren’t privy to the challenges and opportunities before us. As the book explains, gathering multiple perspectives is critical to enhancing our work.
Learning how to process the varying guidance is equally as important. Lopata’s Review, Reframe, Respond framework is a useful and actionable model for seeking and processing guidance from others. It teaches how to tease out the useful information, pull apart other people’s biases and leverage the feedback.
As someone who would give you their last dollar, but wouldn’t ask you for a penny, this book really resonated with me. The strategies that Andy shares about how to ask for help are simple, pragmatic and powerful and I feel inspired to give them a try. This book is going to be a great help to many people who will now have the courage to ask for help, before it’s too late.